I am of the belief that people are not intentionally trying to be non-inclusive but maybe they do so without awareness that it is even happening.

Have you ever been at a meeting, party or gathering and you didn’t know anyone? Or you felt out of place?

This is normal to feel this way in a new circle or crowd by nature.

How many of you know of a bubbly, bigg-than-life woman that made it all ok when she asked you, “How are you?”, “Are you having fun?”, “Can I introduce you?”

When we don’t have that slips so gracefully into our life, we usually wish we did.

Much is at play in these social scenarios.

There is the concept of commonality. People tend to gravitate to what they know, including other people.

There is the concept of shy/outgoing personality types. For the more outgoing people, walking up to strangers and talking is just something they do.

There is also the concept of busyness. Often the people running the meeting are great connectors but they are busy ensuring everything is running smoothly.

So how do we be inclusive of all when there are so many dynamics at play? Slow down, breath and be a great person. Say hi, make introductions, excuse yourself if you have to take care of something and make sure no one is standing or sitting alone. Everyone is of value and giving them time and space in your world will bring a sense of great richness to it.

If everyone in your circle is like you, then you will be missing out on diverse personalities, stories, backgrounds and viewpoints that could elevate you as a person by knowing these other people.

Have  a goal at every event you attend to make sure you are the person that makes everyone feel included.